It's My Crown!

We are home! I'm so excited to see the family!! I'm not too thrilled that it is still way too hot in FL!  

Then the same "stuck in first gear" "can't shift my brain into drive" feelings start to show up. When the kids were younger I would almost panic when this part of the process would start!  I would look at the vehicle filled with our stuff and feel totally overwhelmed!

  I knew what was coming--several days of putting stuff away-- and then my frenzied clean out spree would begin!  Now I just laugh at myself and the "busy bee" mentality. But with little kids it was almost counter-productive! The kids loved playing in the packing boxes for weeks!! If I had just taken a deep breath and said, "Whoa Angie!, One thing at a time!"--I know I would've been more pleasant to be around!  

I also struggled with taking off My Crown and sharing it with Storm. I had been CEO during the season and now he was around everyday--all the time!!  It was a process we had to sit down and talk about several times over the years. We are neither one big proponents of "roles" in a marriage. We have found in our marriage that we each have our strengths and those are the things we focus on doing. Storm is far better at keeping the laundry going and long term plans than I am. I am better at spontaneous parties and kids schedules! Lol!  

For us, we found our strength patterns for the off season and went from there.  It wasn't smooth everyday, but it was a start! I am slightly..ok, big time bossy! Needless to say, it took some time for me to "share My Crown" with Storm. As the kids got older, we re-assessed and kept moving forward. 

Even at this stage of our lives, I still have a tendency to want to have a Frenzied Clean Out Party when we get home after the season!  I'm still learning to take a moment to breathe-- to hug all those precious people, knowing all that stuff in the van can wait. 

Yes I'm still bossy, but definitely teachable!  We cannot read each other's mind!  Communication is the key!  

Some of the "bumps of off season" just take time to smooth out. As we begin to get into a rhythm it begins to flow! Change is a major stress in life whether it's a good one or bad one.  Our bodies don't know the difference. Our little guys feel it too! Take care of yourselves! Breathe deep! Hug each other often!  Find the humor in the everyday mess! Take your foot off the accelerator! Look forward to the holiday season ahead!

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Side Note:

One of the things I've always done that helps me shift gears is to pull out my Fall decor!  Giving the house a Minii Makeover offers me a visual change of a "new season"! 

Happy Fall Y'all!

Angie & Storm